We’ve lost a few more, haven’t we? Friends, people we loved so dearly we could never have imagined our lives without. But what would I say to put your mind at ease? I’ll do my best to at least quote a bible scripture; ‘I see the tears in your eyes as it sinks in, the reality of them no longer being there setting in. Please don’t shed another tear in regret, it will only burden you, hold onto the good things and let the bad go, or else emotions will consume you.’ Emotions are the worst advisors; by now you should be aware of that. As my main critic puts it, ‘Put your mind over the matter.’ Yes, they still live in your heart, as they should, because truly, genuine LOVE never really dies; but lust, infatuation, and unrevealed attraction, are all things that over time rarely survive. 

Okay let’s switch up the tempo, I’m about to jump out the window… you are, you were, and you will be the soul and air that I breathe… the heart and the love that I need… the blood that I’d dare bleed… These are just but a few lines he or she mentioned, or rather flattered you with. Most of these phrases loved ones use to charm each other with are cliché to me, I don’t know about you. Maybe you love them, I once did, thought they were cool, and maybe I would again, touché them. I may not be the best lover, caresser, or that dream ‘smooth operator’… but I guess I’m lucky enough to be surrounded by so much love that I know what love is; let’s debunk. 

Love is effortless; it’s the fun times and the memories that we create together. Whether it’s singing on the side of the street or teasing each other without catching feelings. Love is unexpected; you have to open up your heart to receive it, otherwise, you might miss that it’s always been there for you. To juxtapose, I doubt it’s sought for… thus the essence of being unexpected. Love is accepting; you know it’s never dismissive, even if you’re a hot mess. Love is uncomfortable; it’s the ability to say sorry, even when sorry is not part of your vocabulary. Love is a beauty, that can never be denied… so here’s to letting go, and embracing love… all forms of love, whether romantic or platonic, you know them. Lest I forget, Love is an act of Heroism; heroism is not about earning accolades or even defeating villains; it’s choosing to risk everything for people, expecting nothing in return… that is love!

Look at risks as opportunities, opportunities to explore and get better; I accept making mistakes because I take risks, and believe me, I am not scared. So, chin up champ, don’t sulk because you lost a loved one, or someone stopped loving you… at least you took the risk of loving them. That is just the script we are living; it was never meant to be easy. It will only be easy and smooth for you once you die, that’s when every soul loves and adores you…don’t hate me for that, facts are sacred but opinion is free. You know better. 

But we all need love; a solitary human being is a contradiction in terms, no man is an island as they say. We, however, have to embrace change, evolve, and get better… as it goes, mountaintops are small and the air is thin. We all want to reach the summit, but to survive, we have to adapt to the conditions…persevere. So don’t spend your time thinking of what and how it would have been; rather think of how it could be. Whatever you think about defines your mood. There’s more to life, and there’s more love you have not unraveled yet. Lest you forget, You, my dear, are the Prize! Don’t let the flame extinguish before you enjoy. 

I hope that when you finally get to this nirvana I’m talking about, you’ll get the most open, genuine, caring, and most certainly committed forms of people, do not settle for less. If you are already there, count your blessings!

Nevertheless, no one knows you better than you know yourself. So, bring your own ball to the game – that way you make your own rules. There’s no manual to this!

 So breathe deeply my darling, everything will turn out fine. May this new year remind you that you are deserving of everything good by treating you with the tenderness a soul like you deserves. Wishing you the grace to hold it all together and on the days things get a little harder...I hope you remember to breathe and look around you, there's so much love! Choose to see the light.



That's why this blog is named Eunoia right? Beautiful Thinking!